Being a stay-at-home mother: My thoughts & tips
As a stay-at-home mother, I’m often asked the following questions:
What is it like to stay at home with a child all day long?
Do you miss working in an office environment?
Do you ever get bored?
Is it lonely?
So, I thought I’d share some of my thoughts with you today along with some of my best tips for maintaining your sanity.
First of all, I feel so incredibly fortunate to be able to stay home with Michael, and I cherish each and every day that we spend together- even the ones when he is teething or refuses to nap.
And as far as getting bored…
I can assure you that with an active child, a large house to clean, and articles and blog posts to write (just to name a few), there is simply no time to get bored!
That being said, there are days when I haven’t had enough adult interaction, and I take it out on MT when he gets home from work by talking his ears off for hours. Luckily, I am married to a very patient man.
I do try my best to avoid those situations though. Here’s what I’ve learned over the past 10 months…
1. Become friends with other stay-at-home mommies.
This one was actually pretty easy for me. I swear that all of my friends decided to have babies at the same time! We even have a private baby group through Facebook where we ask for advice, vent, or check in to see if anyone is up for a play date. It is great for Michael to spend time with other babies and toddlers, and the cherry on top is that I get to see my friends.
If you don’t have any friends who also stay home with their kids, I know that many cities have mommy forums where you can easily connect with other women. Signing your little ones up for activities, such as Gymboree, is a great way to meet other mothers as well.
2. Do at least one activity outside of the home every day.
Except for the days when one of us is feeling under the weather, Michael and I get out of the house at some point- whether it is a trip to the grocery store, a visit to the park, a lunch date with a friend, a walk, swim lessons, etc. I am the type of person who gets stir crazy very easily, so this one is kind of mandatory.
3. Find time for your hobbies.
Some of my friends are runners and others are into crafting or reading. My outlet is blogging and free lance writing. In other words, you’re a part of the reason why I haven’t turned into a crazy person.
While being Michael’s mother is my grandest achievement, there’s no need to throw on the mom jeans and abandon all of my other interests. Having some sort of creative outlet is not only great for my own sanity and self fulfillment, but I believe that it makes me a better mother as well.
4. Make the most of nap time and bedtime.
If you’re a mother, you’re well aware of the fact that nap time and bedtime are magical times of day. These are the perfect windows to answer emails, do some housework, throw in a load of laundry, schedule appointments, or return phone calls. But these rare quiet times are also a wonderful opportunity to make some time for yourself. Even doing something simple like painting your nails, taking a bath or shower, taking a power nap, making a cup of tea, or reading a magazine can make a busy mommy feel refreshed and recharged.
5. Get dressed and at least mildly pulled together.
This one will vary from person to person, but I know that I feel much better when I shower, put on an outfit that isn’t covered in remnants of Michael’s dinner, and take the time to do my hair and makeup…even if it is extremely tempting to stay in my pajamas all day. There’s no need to style your hair in a fancy up-do or put on a ball gown and a full face of makeup. However, I do recommend doing whatever you need to do to feel good about yourself.
Being a stay-at-home mother is definitely a full-time job, but it is also the most rewarding job that I’ve ever had…by far.
If you are a stay-at-home mother, I’d love to hear your thoughts and/or any words of advice you might have to offer.
Have a great day!